That’s good advice, Switch, but I don’t think it’s that bad off.
She basically kicked me out, but since I paid all of Sept. rent and bills, I said no until Oct. 1st.
I’ve already rented a storage facility and have moved most of it there. Pretty much everything will be gone by this weekend. Only a few things will remain, which I’m pretty much lending because I don’t need them and don’t care to have them (pots & pans, tv, vcr/dvd combo, etc.) and don’t want her to get completely pissed at me, even though she should understand. I’ll be moving in with my parents, who are pretty excited, and will be saving a ton of money to buy a house or go back to school. Oh yeah, and getting that pilot’s license.
We never had a shared bank account, I just paid for everything. But all the bills except the phone are in her name, so not much to do there. She’s going to have a heck of a time because she is financially strapped ($4k in credit card debt on frivolous purchases), needs another roommate, and probably won’t give up her spending habits. I’m only going to be giving her about $200 a month, but it’s not going to be enough if she doesn’t change quite a bit.
I’ve been spending a hell of a lot of time with my son as he is the only thing that makes me feel better. Not to mention watching him as she’s been going out more and more. But I will be seeing him less, and that makes me so sad.
So it will be cut off time very soon, and I’m worried about her health. But I’ve come to understand that I have to worry about my own and move on. Unfortunately, we will be attached forever, but that just may be the thing that brings her back. I hope for it, but not holding my breath.
Thanks everyone for your help.