When do you ask a lady to be your girlfriend? (Or do you?)

[Gargantua]

An interesting discussion arose in the office this morning - with VARYING opinions…

When do you ask a lady to be your girlfriend? (Or do you?)

Assume the following:

• You like her, and are interested in more
• She likes you and is interested in more (and you know this)

Do you even have a discussion? Or do you just let things take their course?

I wonder what A&A.org has to say…

[Witt]

What’s intercourse? Is that what happens before you marry?
Wouldn’t it be after you tell her your 1st and only love is A&A and that you probably spend half the day on the A&A forum chatting to like minded men.
Yea, after sex then, when you pick up your phone.

[Young Grasshopper]

Assuming you want her to be your girlfriend, 4 dinners, 3 movies, 2 intercourse, and 1 dry hump.

[Guest]

If she doesn’t accept the $50 you offer her for sex, then offer to let her be your girlfriend.  If she doesn’t accept that, then throw in a puppy or a kitten.  That will work for 99.9% of the time.  After intercourse, leave her with her new pet and GET THE HELL OUT OF THERE!

[MrMalachiCrunch]

Certainly AFTER intercourse and closer to NEVER.  But if and when you do/have it/to then that is your official anniversary date so pick a day you are likely to remember but also a day that won’t conflict with other important events, like the superbowl or other holidays.

[frimmel]

You don’t ask. You spend enough time together and not with other people of the sex you prefer to have intercourse with that you simply clarify what is. If you have to ask her if she’s your girlfriend, she’s not your girlfriend.

[Witt]

@MrMalachiCrunch:

Certainly AFTER intercourse and closer to NEVER.  But if and when you do/have it/to then that is your official anniversary date so pick a day you are likely to remember but also a day that won’t conflict with other important events, like the superbowl or other holidays.

Funny.
You lot really are anti-commitment though.

[barney]

I knew this guy who couldn’t go moose hunting because he was getting married.  I told him  “when do you think your anniversary is going to be every year?”  You could tell by the puzzlement in his eyes that he hadn’t thought that through.  It only lasted three years so he can hunt again now.

[MrMalachiCrunch]

I was thinking what a great premeditated thought……If the marriage goes sour…you could always take your wife moose hunting for an anniversary trip…

[wheatbeer]

I never asked my wife if she’d be my girlfriend.

I don’t think there’s any potential advantage to be gained from asking.

[Gargantua]

I agreed with the “don’t ask” sentiment.

But everyone else and there dog seemed to think I was nuts when I said that this morning.

AA.org has reminded me that clearly I was right. :)

[666]

@wheatbeer:

I never asked my wife if she’d be my girlfriend.

me too, I guess depending on your age, it doesn’t need to be addressed.

[ABWorsham4]

Avoid the insecure and wierd questions in relationships. I took this to the extreme, I didn’t ask my wife out, we just spent time together and stayed together. I also did not propose to her, we just said, lets do this.

[Noll]

My woman asked me it during our first date lol.

So basically we just kissed then she said me “Can I be your GF?”

So I can’t vote anything here.

Anyway there are situations in wich you better ask things, and situations when you should just DO things. Imho it all depends on the woman you’re dating. Sometimes it can be very cool to ask with a deep voice “May I kiss you?” Instead of kissing her directly. Doesn’t mean you’re “asking permission”, I wouldn’t do that if I’m not sure the girl is going to say “hell yeah!”.  :-D

[Guest]

So should you ask permission before you intercourse or should you just do it?

[Witt]

Vance, it is probably better to ask if you are in a public place, like a club, but if you are at home: surprise her!
@Noll: I bet your mum had to fight the girls away from your front door when you were younger, you stud you.

[captainwalker]

Ask a lady to be your girlfriend? Does anyone really do that?
If you ask then that raises the possibility that she’ll say “No! You’re just some guy I f–k when I don’t have anything else to do.”
If you’ve been going out with the same woman for some time, say six  months to a year, and she’s the only one you’re going out with…it’s more or less assumed that she’s you’re girlfriend. After that is established then the next question that you’ll have to ponder is " Is it serious?"

[ABWorsham4]

My cousin married a guy who’s pick up line was, Pirate or Ninja?

[Witt]

If you ask then that raises the possibility that she’ll say “No! You’re just some guy I f–k when I don’t have anything else to do.”
Wow! Do women talk like that?
I would certainly say: “not any more, darling!”

[Witt]

@ABWorsham:

My cousin married a guy who’s pick up line was, Pirate or Ninja?

What does that even mean, Worsham? Or is it better not knowing!